I can’t believe that it’s been 5 years since my divorce and the beginning of the creation of Woman’s InSite. So much has transpired in my life since then. I had no idea where this website would take me. If you had asked me where I wanted to be in 5 years, most of what I’m doing now wouldn’t have even been on my radar. I certainly didn’t have the confidence to think that I could do many of things that I do now. I had no plans to be a speaker, author of a book, Real Estate School owner or a Networking Instructor. All I could envision was the website. But it’s funny how things evolve and doors open that you never even realized existed. I’m extremely thankful that my journey isn’t limited by my own inadequate ability to visualize the amazing possibilities that exist.
Many people that probably have no idea they had such a profound affect on me have affected this journey I’ve been on for the last five years. Some of them challenged me and made me angry. Some encouraged me and helped me learn. Every one of them have gotten me here today and for that I’m grateful.
When I first launched Woman’s InSite, I began networking. It was the only way I knew to let people know I existed. In the beginning, I met quite a few people in the financial planning business. They would always question me about my business plan and things that I hadn’t even thought about. Then after all of these queries, they would ask me with a great deal of concern on their face if I had a plan “B”. Uhhhhh, no! Hadn’t thought of a plan “B” at all. They obviously thought I was foolish and crazy. I could see they didn’t have any confidence in my ability to make this business successful. What they didn’t factor in was faith and courage.
“Only those willing to go too far can possibly find out how far one can go.” ~ T.S. Eliot
Many of us tend to give up at the first signs of frustration or defeat. We are reluctant to embrace new ideas and doubt our ability to learn new things. Whenever we feel a little push back, we think we’ve gone as far as possible. We aren’t willing to risk going too far to find out what lies beyond what comes easy. There were times that I thought about giving up. I’ve had many doubts along the way. Sometimes fear took ahold of me when I faced important decisions.I’ve learned the importance of understanding the difference between a little rough seas and a sinking ship.
About a year after I started networking, I met another financial planner who was a little different than the rest. He asked me about having a plan “B” but when I told I didn’t have one, he looked and me and smiled and said, “Good, no one with a plan ‘B’ ever makes plan ‘A’ work”. Wow! How profound. I had really needed to hear that. I think that was a real turning point for me. Failure has NOT been an option for me.
Understand that if you’re constantly checking your footing with plan “B”, whenever the seas get rough, you’ll just abandon ship and forget about plan “A” altogether. If you’re going to do something, then jump in with both feet! You’re going to need every bit of your focus to be directed toward where you’re headed.
I caution you, don’t get bogged down with people who are negative. Instead, surround yourself with positivity. You get to decide whom you listen to. Remember, just because someone says something doesn’t make it true! Be thankful for each day and have confidence in your ability to learn new things. I’m no different than you and if I can overcome my fear and lack of knowledge, so can you! Be open to change. Listen to your heart and don’t be afraid to take some risks, especially if it’s something that you can’t stop thinking about. Don’t worry about the details. Let things unfold before you. Never let fear keep you from being the person you were meant to be.
I believe that with the proper motivation, you can do what you set out to do so I urge you, don’t abandon plan “A”. Yes, it’s going to take some time and you will experience a great deal of learning along the way. There are no overnight successes. Be open to change and willing to learn new things. Learn to look beyond your own imagination. There’s a reason you wanted plan “A” to work. Don’t lose your passion just because the seas get a little rough. Keep going even if all you can do is take baby steps.
“As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” ~ Marianne Williamson
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